The Bad Guy

"Listen. If it doesn’t bring you love, peace or a positive vibe, then let that sh#t go. Stay growing."

Ever feel like one of those out-of-control house plants that has developed past its clay pot? You think the plant feels remorse for the pot? “I feel guilty because I want more.” Guilt from growth. This crazy concept is all too familiar. It’s fascinating to me how with the need for progress comes shame. Remorse when we have moved past things, experiences, people; as if this is part of the original plan.

The guilt of outgrowing something we have once loved can be more tremulous than staying. I’ve been there. I’ve outgrown past friendships, lovers, careers, projects and dreams. Only staying so not to hurt someone/something. In the end only killing myself.

Why is it when change is desired we look at ourselves like the bad guy ? Why are we experiencing shame for dreaming or achieving ? Is it appropriate to feel foolish, wrong or ashamed in exchange for our ambitions?

Let’s take a step back for a second. I’m not hating on guilt. I think it is necessary for human connection. For us to experience empathy, relate to each other and see fault within ourselves.

But our mirrors are dirty and distorted. There is no need to darken that SHINE. How we feel is not necessarily what is true. That loud voice of doubt are is such a b*tch. It only hurts us. Strengthen the little voice we are conditioned to silence. The one that pushes us to the stars and beyond.

You are not a bad person for ...

saying no

holding a personal standard

changing your mind

cutting out toxicity

viewing things in a different light

setting up new boundaries

wanting more out of life

Let me say it again ... YOU ARE NOT A BAD PERSON

All of us have good within us. Shine that light. When we identify ourselves as bad we are not allowing opportunity to blossom. It’s that though that provokes the shame-game. Did you do something wrong? No? Then stop convincing yourself of it babe. Don’t let guilt be the price of growth.

Listen. If it doesn’t bring you love, peace or a positive vibe, then let that sh#t go. Stay growing. You are loved. You can do anything & everything. You are supported. The real ones out there have your back. I got you.

Peace & Love,

Nik